Get to Know You Questions: 240+ Question Game

What is the get to know you game

The get to know you game is the easiest way to go from small talk to a real conversation. Each turn a question comes up and someone answers it: about their dreams, memories, fears or what they like about the other person. It breaks the ice with someone new and also uncovers things about people you thought you knew by heart.

This page has more than 240 get to know you questions in four categories: Friends, with deep questions and a few flirty ones; First date, for that first conversation; Family, for long dinners; and Couples, the 18+ category with intimate questions about desire, fantasies and the relationship. None repeat until you have seen them all.

How to play

All you need is one phone and something to talk about. It works for two people or a group:

Pick the categories: Choose the ones you want: Friends, First date, Family or Couples. Couples is 18+ and starts turned off, so you have to enable it on purpose.
Read the question out loud: Whoever holds the phone reads the question that came up.
Answer honestly: The reader answers, or everyone takes a turn in a group. As a couple, ideally both of you answer.
Let the conversation flow: If an answer has more to it, keep asking. No rush and no points: the goal is to get to know each other.
Move on to the next one: Tap the card or the "Next" button and pass the phone to the other person.

Get to know you questions

Here are 40 get to know you questions, sorted by who you are with. The game above has more than 240.

Get to know you questions for friends

To go deeper in a friendship, with a few flirty questions for late nights.

What is your best memory with me?
What was your first impression of me when we met?
What do you value most in a friendship?
What is your biggest dream, and what is missing to make it happen?
What never fails to make you laugh?
What was the best trip of your life?
What are you afraid of that almost nobody knows?
What song takes you back to your teenage years?
What is your perfect Sunday?
If you could live in any era, which one would you pick?

First date questions

To break the ice without it feeling like a job interview.

What do you enjoy most about your job or what you study?
What does your ideal weekend look like?
Are you more of a beach or a mountain person?
What is your favorite food?
What are you passionate about?
Do you have any pets?
What is the best trip you have ever taken?
What show are you watching right now?
What is the most spontaneous thing you have ever done?
What makes you laugh?

Questions to get to know your family better

For long dinners: stories, memories and anecdotes nobody ever told you.

What is your favorite memory from when you were little?
What family story should never be forgotten?
What did you want to be when you grew up?
What was the best trip we took as a family?
What home-cooked dish reminds you of your childhood?
What is your favorite family tradition?
What do you admire most about someone at this table?
What mischief did you get up to that nobody ever found out about?
What was your first job?
What advice from a family member have you never forgotten?

Questions for couples (18+)

Intimate and unfiltered: desire, fantasies, limits and the future of the relationship.

What was the first thing that physically attracted you to me?
What is your favorite memory of our first time?
What fantasy would you like to fulfill with me?
What part of my body do you like most?
What turns you on most about me?
What is the most daring place you would like us to do it?
What new thing would you like to try in bed?
Do you prefer intimacy in the morning or at night?
What would you like me to do more often in bed?
What has been our best night together?

Tips for a great conversation

• Really listen: leave the phone on the table between questions.
• Follow up. A simple "why?" usually takes the conversation much further than the original question.
• Anyone can skip a question. Trust is built, not demanded.

Frequently asked questions

What questions should I ask to get to know someone?

The best ones are open and ask for a story, not a yes or no: "What was the best trip of your life?" or "What advice would you give your fifteen-year-old self?". This page has 40 examples and the game has more than 240.

How does the get to know you game work?

Pick the categories, a random question comes up and someone answers it. Then move on to the next. Questions don't repeat until you have seen them all, even if you reload the page.

Does it work for a first date?

Yes. The First date category has 60 questions to break the ice, learn what the other person likes and flirt a little without it feeling like an interrogation.

Are there intimate questions for couples?

Yes, in the Couples category, which is 18+. It has questions about desire, fantasies, intimacy and the future of the relationship. It starts turned off, so you have to enable it on purpose.